{"id":479,"date":"2017-01-07T20:28:48","date_gmt":"2017-01-08T04:28:48","guid":{"rendered":"http:\/\/olympichypnotherapy.com\/communications\/?p=479"},"modified":"2017-01-07T20:28:48","modified_gmt":"2017-01-08T04:28:48","slug":"shame-the-swampland-of-the-soul","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"http:\/\/olympichypnotherapy.com\/communications\/?p=479","title":{"rendered":"Shame: The Swampland of the Soul"},"content":{"rendered":"

I was brought up in a environment based on shame. My mom, bless her, had a capacity to make you feel like you were innately bad.\u00a0\u00a0 As Brene explains: “Shame drives two big tapes —<\/span> “never good enough” —<\/span> and, if you can talk it out of that one,<\/span> “who do you think you are?”<\/span> The thing to understand about shame is, it’s not guilt.<\/span> Shame is a focus on self, guilt is a focus on behavior.<\/span> Shame is “I am bad.”<\/span> Guilt is “I did something bad.”<\/span><\/span>…. Guilt: I’m sorry. I made a mistake.<\/span> Shame: I’m sorry. I am a mistake.”<\/span><\/span><\/p>\n

This is a very entertaining talk that deals with a common topic influencing many of us, lessening our self-esteem.\u00a0 For women, shame is, do it all,<\/span> do it perfectly<\/span> and never let them see you sweat.<\/span><\/span><\/p>\n

Research by Mahalik at Boston College.<\/span> He asked, what do women need to do to conform to female norms?<\/span> The top answers in this country:<\/span> nice, thin, modest<\/span> and use all available resources for appearance.<\/span> When he asked about men,<\/span> what do men in this country need to do to conform with male norms,<\/span> the answers were:<\/span> always show emotional control,<\/span> work is first,<\/span> pursue status and violence.<\/span> <\/span><\/p>\n

I think you will really like this video.<\/p>\n