Human beings, we view the world as if through a big picture window. A window with vast vistas, fascinating possibilities, we see the world, all we are consciously aware of. And then there are a few spots on the window. These spots are traumas from our past and they have become dark spots on our window into consciousness. For some people the 
spots become their focus. A beautiful nearly infinite vista of life existing out that window, and all they see are the spots. This is the way it is for most of us. Do we give it our all throughout the day, only to lament our lack of perfection as we prepare for sleep? I do sometimes. We tend to focus on the spots.
The spots are negative memories, self-criticism, guilt and other such emotions. How do spots consume us? Why don’t we look past the negative memories and other issues? How does focusing on these memories affect our lives?
Perhaps the words of Tyron Edwards in the 1800’s explain how we are affected. He wrote:
“Watch your thoughts, for they become words.
Watch your words, for they become actions.
Watch your actions, for they become habits.
Watch your habits, for they become character.
Watch your character, for it becomes your destiny.”