I Have to Confess

This is a segment of a tree that had sat for many years and as I was splitting the rounds the bark came off and I photographed this and many other beautifully colorful designs.

I have to confess that I write down many things. I have legal pads filled with ideas, notes, thoughts, lyric fragments and more. There are so many different things on those pads that thus far, I don’t have a good organizational system.

Today I was looking for some notes I took from a recorded therapy session for myself and found a list. I think this list came from a movie my Chiropractor in Rainier recommended. I hope you enjoy my notes.

Engage your friends
Bury the past, let go of your hurts, forgive
House the homeless
Respect the old
Thank god for your work ethic
Whoever you are and wherever you go, change is possible
Compassion
Keep your word
Do your best
No assumptions
Share your feelings
Let yourself be happy
Tell others you love them
Live your truth
Be true to yourself
Play with your children
Hang with your friends
Tell the truth
Make amends
Resolve conflicts
Follow your dreams
Help others
Do it now
Stick to your principals
Be present
Finish what you start
Release drama
Have Gratitude

Magical Moments

In the early evening of June 14th 2021 I had the joy of watching a rare phenomena to the east of my home. There was a rain storm off to the east and the sun was low on the horizon finding it’s way under clouds. The result was over thirty minutes of watching amazing rainbows. At one point I took the photo above. I had to use the panorama feature on my phone to get it all in frame.

life is like that and sometimes we have magic that leaves us in awe. Now if I could live in awe I am certain it might become uninteresting. Some times rarity is a gift that awakens a joy in our being.

I happened to just page though one of my books in my library tonight and found this ancient Chinese Proverb I would like to share with you. Here it is:

If you want happiness for an hour take a nap.
If you want happiness for a day go fishing.
If you want happiness for a month get married.
If you want happiness for a year inherit a fortune.
If you want happiness for a lifetime help someone else.
If you want eternal happiness know yourself.

The Four Horsemen

The Four Horsemen of the Apocalypse is a metaphor depicting the end of times in the New Testament. They describe conquest, war, hunger, and death respectively. This metaphor is used to describe communication styles that, according to Doctor John Gottman, can predict the end of a relationship.

Here are the four horsemen.

1. Criticism

Criticism is different than offering a critique or voicing a complaint. The latter two are about specific issues, whereas the former is an ad hominem attack. It is an attack on your partner at the core of their character. In effect, you are dismantling their whole being when you criticize.

2. Contempt

Contempt is truly mean— it is when we treat others with disrespect, mock them with sarcasm, ridicule, call them names, and mimic or use body language such as eye-rolling or scoffing. The target of contempt is made to feel despised and worthless.

3. Defensiveness

Defensiveness is typically a response to criticism. We’ve all been defensive, and this horseman is nearly omnipresent when relationships are on the rocks. When we feel unjustly accused, we fish for excuses and play the innocent victim so that our partner will back off.

4. Stonewalling

The fourth horseman is stonewalling, which is usually a response to contempt. Stonewalling occurs when the listener withdraws from the interaction, shuts down, and simply stops responding to their partner. Rather than confronting the issues with their partner, people who stonewall can make evasive maneuvers such as tuning out, turning away, acting busy, or engaging in obsessive or distracting behaviors.

I have been a student and fan of this research for many years. In time such behaviors will destroy intimacy, trust, love, and the relationship.

Here is an article that further delves into this subject. There are many many detailed articles on this subject on the web.

There is also hope if your partner is open to changing these patterns and behaviors. Here is an article on antidotes to the horsemen.

New brain hypnosis connection

A study “from the University of Turku, Finland, found that during hypnosis the brain shifted to a state where individual brain regions acted more independently of each other.…The finding shows that the brain may function quite differently during hypnosis when compared to a normal waking state. This is interesting because the extent to which hypnosis modifies neural processing has been hotly debated in the field.”

This is not news to hypnotists. It is just that disconnection that is the state that allows the hypnotist to “speak” to the subconscious mind. It is a state that we encourage in what is formally known as an induction, the moving from a conscious mind dominance, to a subconscious dominance, one that allows the conscious mind to “sleep”. The deep sleep state is mostly the same as a deep trance state. Brainwaves prove this definitively.

“In a normal waking state, different brain regions share information with each other, but during hypnosis this process is kind of fractured and the various brain regions are no longer similarly synchronised,” describes researcher Henry Railo from the Department of Clinical Neurophysiology at the University of Turku

I think the use of synchronised would be better replaced with dominant resonance. It is our vibration, our frequencies, that produce a dominant resonance indicated in the change from sleep to waking, from waking to sleep, and from waking to hypnotic. In deep sleep and in deep trance our conscious mind is at rest, a delta brainwave state, leaving our subconscious mind present. Much of the work that takes place in a trance occurs in a Theta brainwave state. This is one “level” higher than Delta. In either case there is access to the subconscious mind. The subconscious is a literal, powerful, and malleable mind. It is this mind where new forms of habitual thinking may be nurtured and brought into being.

It seems likely now that science will confirm what hypnotists and many others have long known — Mind is the builder and there are levels or varieties of mind.

“If only”

“Love is the great miracle cure. Loving ourselves works miracles in our lives.” —Louise L. Hay

Sometime ago I thought I had discovered something very original. I titled my theory “I’ll be happy when”. The central idea of the theory is a pervasive behavior/state of mind that I observed in my marriage partner at the time. I was so pleased and at the same time discouraged by this “discovery”. As I looked outward from my marriage partner I came to see that this kind of thinking was everywhere with most people.

I thought I would write about this because I received an email this morning from Gay Hendricks at heartsintrueharmony.com talking about the “real cause of our unhappiness”. That cause he explained as ‘if only”. ‘”IF ONLY” has us looking for answers outside ourselves, forever trying to change how others behave in order to feel better about our own lives.’ I would add to this phrase “I’ll be happy when” I have this or that ad infinitum. This or that can be almost anything; a new house, a new car, more money, new furnishings and on and on it goes.

Hendricks says the root of this problem lies in a fundamental lack of love for ourselves and the solution is in a program they market. The program is designed to help people become more present, release regret and guilt, freedom from others critical opinions, and lessening fears.

My opinion on this “if only” subject is in agreement with the lack of self love analysis. There are many aspects to this self love conundrum. Yes being present is one, so is gratitude, so is forgiveness of self and others. We cannot change others so sometimes there is no recourse but to begin a process of self loving, to let go of the relationships with others who adhere to the I’ll be happy when consciousness. This is especially true when you are blamed for the changes they want not happening for them.

It is important to note that a co-existing component with this consciousness is usually a victim mentality that verges on sociopathic because it is never that persons fault. Such people blame, criticize, everything and everyone and rarely see their part in things that happen to them. If you have such relationships in your life, work on yourself first, don’t blame the other person, set boundaries. Boundaries are lines in the sand that apply to behaviors that you will not allow, will not tolerate in your life. Yes, your life may change. It will change for the better.

All relationships are there for us to learn. Learn to be loving, kind, compassionate, supportive, trusting, giving, caring, and most relationships in this material world exist for a limited time. I feel blessed to have been with my wife for such a long time. A long time was helpful. It gave us both time to learn a great many things. I am grateful.

“Who looks outside, dreams; who looks inside, awakes.” —Carl Gustav Jung

Past Life Regressions

A COYOTE IN MY YARD LAST YEAR

Since I “re-opened” I have had several past life regressions. These have been quite interesting as the parallels between the remembered lives and a problem in their current life has been very apparent. I have heard from them that the information was helpful in understanding how the two connect and how that can explain feelings, memories, and experiences in their lives today.

Life goes through change after change and I have had many changes in the last year. One such change is the ability to see people again and my wonderful new office.

The Three Things

Marisa Peer is a peer; that is, she is a hypnotherapist also. She has this lovely video talking about the three things necessary for a good relationship. Here is a link to her video.

If you prefer to just know the three things here they are:
1) Sexual chemistry
2) Best friend chemistry
3) Deep admiration and respect for the other person

There you have it. The video is worth watching.

The State of Olympic Hypnotherapy

I have seen very few clients this year. The scamdemic brought my practice to a sudden halt where it remains — in limbo.

There is much going on in the world and many are going to surprised and caught unaware in the coming days, months, and years. There are forces competing for control of the human race. Some of those forces are very negative and some are very positive.

It certainly looks like I will be waiting for the truth to come out about the “pandemic” and a return to some sort of sane environment before returning to setting up a new office and seeing clients.

Learn the difference between a true case and what the media is telling you is a case. A true case is one where the person has symptoms and a cause of those symptoms can be isolated. The “cases” in the media are the result of a test that does not test for the virus but rather tests for fragments of DNA that anyone can have from a past flu or cold. Do you know that so far the CDC has not isolated a virus?

There is a war on human beings, a war for their very souls. Do not take the vaccine it will seriously harm you. It is designed to harm you, to cut you off from emotions, from your deeper mind and soul. You will not be able to reverse the affects of the vaccine.

No Fight, No Loser

Oh what I might have become. I often wonder who I would be today if I had taken another turn on the road of life. There was a time in my past when I was a student of T T Liang. What if I had dedicated myself fully to learning everything I could learn from him. If I had done so, if he had been my teacher, certainly life would be different. I can only imagine to the extent that I can hold a vision of infinite choices I would have made from that point.

He taught me No Fight, No Loser that cooperation is essential. I have quite a ways to go before I would ever consider myself a model of cooperation. Especially if we factor in not only actions but thoughts.

We are in a time of great change, great strife, great division, and great manipulation by various forces bent on their vision of the future. I feel the best we can do is listen to others and find whatever common ground we can. If we don’t, we increase the probability of a descent into madness.

It is helpful to remember and consider that anger is most often a mask covering a core feeling of fear. Its not easy being calm amid the chaos.

People wonder what party I belong to and I could say that mine is the Golden Party. And there is only one rule for this party and that is the Golden Rule. I wish you peace.