Thoughts about Choices

My Garden

I have not posted in quite some time and I think it is time to do so. Many things change in the world and many things remain the same.

I have seen two cigarette smokers recently and its been generally unsatisfying. As medicine says to knowingly do no harm, I say respect each person’s free will. Smokers often do not want to stop smoking but due to illness and family pressures they want a therapist to make them stop. This is an interesting position for me as a hypnotherapist as it requires me to stay within the bounds of my beliefs that include helping them to understand they must want to stop if there is to be effective help given. I also only use hypnosis in the context of helping someone get results they really want.

Both smokers had very bad health due to cigarettes and both didn’t really want to stop. Their appointments had been created by family members. I bent my personal rule to see them for only one appointment to begin and I doubt either will return in spite of life threatening disease. And, it is their body to do with what they wish and I respect that.

The right and the gift of choice is a very big thing for all of us. We do create our reality on many levels and its just an experience from which we may gain wisdom. I was a smoker and I got the experience and fortunately for me I am still choosing better health.

Everyone has addictions. I have a very intuitive friend, Echo Bodine, and she wrote in her book Echos of The Soul: “Addictions on the soul’s level, can be seen as an ongoing part of the battle between the physical realm and the spiritual realm to determine which is ultimately in power.” I like that!

Time Off

I’m taking some time off. I’m in Minnesota to attend my 50th high school reunion. It was a class of 862 and over one hundred of the class are dead. I’ve heard stories of others very ill or chronically ill who can’t attend.

I’m grateful to be here and in good health even though I’m limping from and overzealous Pickle ball game. I have sprained my left calf muscle. I was having fun learning how to play but overestimated my bodies conditioning. I was warned by a close friend too.

Below are The Patricians we played music together professionally in both junior and senior high school. We have rehearsed a few songs and play them in the High School auditorium tomorrow. It’s been fun to get together. I’m so grateful to be able to do this, it is a gift.

The Patricians

One of the authors I read is Michael Newton. He is a Hypnotherapist who specializes in past life regressions focusing on the “place” and “time” between lives. I happened on an article talking about the similarities noted in 7000 people’s experiences between lives. It a good read and the website itself is one worth subscribing to.

https://www.collective-evolution.com/2018/08/22/7000-souls-recall-their-life-between-lives-during-regression-hypnosis-dolores-cannon/

One of the similarities noted is that most souls in the world today are in an early stage of development. That explains so much. I am always wondering why we the people don’t act in concert to change the priorities on this planet or why people are so clueless. And in the most sad of ways ways people are hypnotized to a narrative that they think is a result of their brilliant intellect, while all the while they are being manipulated through the very powerful tools of media, mass and social. We are glued to our devices.

We really have to break the trance we don’t realize we are in. And how does anybody become aware of being entranced, programmed.

There is a book that addresses this issue. I feel like I will have to reread  it when I return home. It’s called: Trances People Live by Steven Wolinsky.

Here is a description of the book. Read the book and get a good therapist. A therapist can help you discover the trances you are in and help change them.

“At last, the missing piece of the dysfunctional puzzle. It is not enough to understand or even relive our childhood traumas. Dr. Wolinsky shows us how we continue to recreate those traumas in our adult lives and how to stop creating them. Every uncomfortable emotional state, and many psychosomatic symptoms, are also states of trance. Trance is the “glue” that holds the problem in the present moment. Learning to identify the kind of trance state beneath a problem or symptom gives us the tool that finally dissolves the glue. This book offers a gold-mine of resources for those who suffer from dysfunctional patterns of behavior or for anyone who feels stuck in an undesirable emotional or addictive state. Learning to step out of the trance states that create our problems and symptoms is to learn to step into the present moment at last free of the baggage from our past.”

And now a few words from Milton Erickson:

“A patient comes to you because he can’t do the things he thinks he should be able do. The hypnotherapist is helping the patient transcend their learned limitations in order to realize their potentials.

That is the only legitimate basis of prestige. We naturally confer prestige on those who help us transcend our own limitations.

Magic is essentially understanding how the mind works and facilitating its potential is white magic;  using that understanding for harmful intent is black magic.”

I realize from her questions I hear from people just how often hypnosis is so misunderstood. It seems to me that it’s all about helping. Transcending our own limitations is about beneficial new patterns of thoughts and actions. The goal is positive thoughts and desires.