Uncertainty

 

 

 JOY

Lost, confused, anxious, and filled with uncertainty, a common complaint or malady of these times and of simply being a human being. It would be rare to find a singular human being of moderate age who has not dealt with these feelings. It seems to be a part of life. The causes are many and the feelings are real. Feelings And everything is about uncertainty. What do you really know of the future. My dear friend’s son’s wife is recovering from a double mastectomy, a brother in law is in chemotheray for pancreatic cancer, my best friend for 22 years and a high school friend are both struggling with Rheumatoid arthritis. Many clients have serious health issues. Being ill increases stress and the irony is that most diseases are caused by stress, is stress like a virus settling into our psyche that then creates physical symptoms which birth greater stress? Now there’s a novel thought!

Here are some ideas you might find helpful. Imagine how someone else would handle the same situation. If you had a big moral question and you are a Christian you might ask how Jesus would handle it. In other words, if something in the future does happen (a negative event) how do yo deal with it, cope with it? How would somebody with the requisite skills cope with it? When you figure that out you just practice it.

Everything is uncertain, you don’t know for sure that you wake up tomorrow, the future is uncertain. I found a quote from my favorite mystic today and in reading it I recognized what is keeping me coping, I am helping others.      “…how happy those should be that have been called to a purposefulness in relieving suffering… in giving hope to those who find life’s pathway in the material world beset with shadows and doubts.”

You don’t have to be a therapist to help others but only be there or help in some way you can best.

I read about this “exercise”, the exercise is to write one sentence each night, a sentence about the most important thought or event in that day. Sometimes the sentence reflects something learned. I only started recently, join me in this experiment if you wish. We can share our experiences.

Anxiety Manifestation

 

Recently anxiety has overtaken depression in the realms of most popular psychological malady. As a human being I too at times become anxious. As a therapist many people come to see me due to anxiety. Because we are mind in a body, discovering the thoughts that create the anxiety and lessening or eliminating those thoughts is the path to calm.

“Many of us don’t realize that every thought, word and action we say and do in life is transmitted via the etheric and nervous system to every organ, cell and molecule of the body. In less than a second your energy system starts working towards your choices and actions. If these are not congruent with your beliefs, goals and values, the result will be a physical or chemical imbalance in the body.”

“We are all motivated at a subconscious level to stay on the path of our purpose. When we deviate or refrain from this path, for whatever reason, our inner being starts working against us, alerting us to look inside ourselves and at what we are avoiding, denying, or resisting. If we refuse to listen, we become anxious, stressed and plagued with fear and confusion. When we deny what we feel, we feel trapped and become ungrounded. Life feels chaotic.”

Here’s a simple thing to do: when you notice your mind saying something unkind about you, a word like “you idiot” (one of my past favorites when I fail at something) note that word and banish it. Forbid you to call you an idiot. In time you will stop doing that to yourself. Do this with three words and you will be happier.

Good To Know

 

It is said, and I agree, that when the conscious mind is in disagreement with our subconscious mind, the subconscious mind always wins out. This is something to consider, the implications are far reaching, everything is influenced by a level of our mind that by definition is sub or below awareness of your mind reading these words.

Subconsious patterns of thought, attitudes, dictate behaviors carried out by the “conscious” mind. Negative and positive attitudes and behaviors are constantly influencing the very processes of our most intricate, diverse, and interconnected systems of our body leading to disease or leading to great health.

My mother had rheumatoid arthritis and I knew her very well.  She fit the following thought pattern for this disease quite well.

“ARTHRITIS is a dis-ease that comes from a constant pattern of criticism. First of all, criticism of the self, and then criticism of other people. Arthritic people often attract a lot of criticism because it is their pattern to criticize. They are cursed with “perfectionism,” the need to be perfect at all times in every situation. ” YOU CAN HEAL YOUR LIFE ~ Louise Hay

Could my mother have gotten well? I will always believe it possible, possible if she changed her thinking. Most people live in world where real change of thoughts and attitudes  is hard to do and harder to know to do.

Such is life.

 

Change is Normal

Change is normal, necessary, and unavoidable. I’m changing my spiritual ideal to love. I’ve been influenced to do so by a very loving man I met at my retreat this week. In the presence of kindness and love we may realize Its never too late to improve. I really hope to someday be the best I can be and little by little change comes.

And now a few words from Milton Erickson:

“A patient comes to you because he can’t do the things he thinks he should be able do. The hypnotherapist is helping the patient transcend their learned limitations in order to realize their potentials.

That is the only legitimate basis of prestige. We naturally confer prestige on those who help us transcend our own limitations.

Magic is essentially understanding how the mind works and facilitating its potential is white magic;  using that understanding for harmful intent is black magic.”

I realize from her questions I hear from people just how often hypnosis is so misunderstood. It seems to me that it’s all about helping. Transcending our own limitations is about beneficial new patterns of thoughts and actions. The goal is positive thoughts and desires.

 

The Power Of Love

This morning, Thursday May 11th, I read the following story in a book and it touched me. The book is Edgar Cayce on Angels by Robert J. Grant.
I found the book in a box in the closet as I was working toward my move in a few weeks. It was as if the Angels had placed this unread book there for me to find to assist me on my journey.

A powerful soul named Adolf Hitler seemed to have the entirety of the blessings of Satan himself at his disposal to attempt to carry out his malignant vision called “the final solution” of exterminating the Jews during World War II. The power to command hundreds of thousands of Nazis to commit murder was indeed a malevolent power from the realms of hell itself. Yet, there are stories from this tragedy which indicate that there is a divine light even in the darkest night. As a medical doctor working at the end of World War II to liberate the concentration camps. George Ritchie, author of Return To Tomorrow, found love amid the hatred. He found something which even the most malevolent of fallen angels could not touch.

Dr. Ritchie assisted the inmates of a concentration camp near Wuppertal, Poland, in receiving medical attention when Germany surrendered to the  Allies in 1945. One such inmate helped Ritchie treat the starving prisoners from the camp. “Wild Bill,” as Ritchie called him, appeared to have recently arrived at the camp prior to Germany’s surrender. He seemed healthy, bright, optimistic, and in good spirits. Wild Bill always had time to help at least one more inmate at the long day’s end. His energy seemed boundless. He became a valuable resource for Ritchie and the rest of the medical team in helping the former prisoners find their families, in offering translations and doing paperwork. Dr. Ritchie was astounded when he learned that Wild Bill had been a concentration camp inmate since 1939! Ritchie wrote the following in his book, Return From Tomorrow:

“For six years he (Wild Bill) had lived on the same starvation diet, slept in the same airless and disease ridden barracks as everyone else, but without the least physical or mental deterioration. Perhaps even more amazing, every group in the camp looked on him as a friend… Only after I’d been at Wuppertal a number of weeks did I realize what a rarity this was in a compound where different nationalities of prisoners hated each other almost as much as they did the Germans.”

Ritchie believed that the secret to Wild Bill’s survival was love. In the face of great persecution and hatred from the Germans, Wild Bill learned love and forgiveness. According to Ritchie, Wild Bill had lived in the Jewish section of Warsaw with his wife, two daughters, and three little boys.

“When the Germans reached our street, he said, they lined everyone against a wall and opened up with machine guns. I begged to be allowed to die with my family, but because I spoke German they put me in a work camp… I had to decide right then… whether to let myself hate the soldiers who had done this. It was an easy decision, really. I was a lawyer. In my practice I had seen too often what hate could do to people’s minds and bodies. Hate had just killed the six people who mattered most to me in the world. I decided then that I would spend the rest of my life — whether it was a few days or many years — loving every person I came in contact with. Loving every person… this was the power that had kept a man well in the face of every privation.

Wild Bill made a choice to not hate those who had persecuted him. He realized that the very evil which killed his family thrived on hate. For Wild Bill to react in kind with the Germans would have created a pact of evil and continued the chain of hate. In his ability to love, Bill ascended from the darkness to the light and was freed. In doing so, he not only survived the Holocaust, but he miraculously retained his health. How? His choosing to love opened a channel or way through wh;icy the Divine could help him. In hatred, there is no channel of light, no divine intervention, no help available. There is only access to more evil influences which perpetuate and flourish in such emotions. Love breaks the chain of whatever power the angels of darkness have. Edgar Cayce once said in a reading that it was easy to love one’s friends; the real challenge is loving the enemy; the people who hurt, betray, or deceive us. The readings went so far as to say that until we can see the Christ in the most vile person, we have not yet begun to grow spiritually. This indeed is a challenge for all of us.

 

 

The Sadness of Secondary Gain

I recently had a client with secondary gain. Secondary gain is defined as: “any advantage, as increased attention, disability benefits, or release from unpleasant responsibilities, obtained as a result of having an illness”.

A man goes to his doctor because he has a chicken attached to his head. This is a problem, having a chicken attached to his head. The doctor examines him and asks him to come back the next week. When he returns the doctor says he can remove the attached chicken. The man pauses and thinks for a minute and replies he doesn’t want the chicken removed. The doctor is astonished and asks “why?” The man replies, because I like the eggs.

My client has a difficult problem with migraines. When I mentioned wouldn’t it be nice to be free of the migraines and return to work instead of subsisting on disability, the reply was that that might mean going back to school to catch up to the current technology in the former job. Rather they would prefer to be well enough to engage in the volunteer work they enjoyed but not well enough to be off of the disability.

I bring this up because many of us have enough “benefits” from our problems to want those problems to continue rather than face the change or uncertainty of returning to full mental or physical health.

As a side note: Migraines affect an estimated 38 million Americans. They can strike both young and old, but a majority of sufferers are women, and/or between the ages of 35 and 55.

Worldwide, as many as 1 billion people are affected, making migraine the third most prevalent illness in the world.

Amazing

It is amazing to me how the universe works sometimes. I attended a retreat seminar last weekend hosted by the local chapter of the ARE. The key presenter was Dr. C Norman Shealy. He’s a wonderfully intelligent MD and PHD with numerous patented inventions in healthcare. So, I was shocked when opened his presentation saying that the number one thing he believes anyone should do when confronting a health issue is to get a past life regression. Up until that moment I wasn’t sure this retreat was for me, and then I was enthralled.

I try not to stand out as too woo woo because I desire to help as many people as possible in my practice. Someone who comes to me with congestive heart failure and a mainstream religion needs the immediate help I can provide and I don’t need to lessen that help by talking about things they would find uncomfortable.

Now this has me thinking about how I can add this as a possibility for more clients.

One of the very next things he said also rocked my boat. He suggested that Autogenics (self-hypnosis) would cure 80% of all problems people have, but that alas, most people lack the self discipline or motivation to set aside 10 – 20 minutes twice a day to engage this.

He also said that all our troubles are the result of fear. I’ve known this for awhile but, this was so validating.

I’m now on track to implement these ideas into my practice asap.

Here’s one more wonderful synchronicity, Norman and my long time friend Dr Elmer Cranton go way back in time when they started the American Holidtic Health Association. Life some days is amazing.