I was brought up in a environment based on shame. My mom, bless her, had a capacity to make you feel like you were innately bad. As Brene explains: “Shame drives two big tapes —“never good enough” —and, if you can talk it out of that one,“who do you think you are?”The thing to understand about shame is, it’s not guilt.Shame is a focus on self, guilt is a focus on behavior.Shame is “I am bad.”Guilt is “I did something bad.”…. Guilt: I’m sorry. I made a mistake.Shame: I’m sorry. I am a mistake.”
This is a very entertaining talk that deals with a common topic influencing many of us, lessening our self-esteem. For women, shame is, do it all,do it perfectlyand never let them see you sweat.
Research by Mahalik at Boston College.He asked, what do women need to do to conform to female norms?The top answers in this country:nice, thin, modestand use all available resources for appearance.When he asked about men,what do men in this country need to do to conform with male norms,the answers were:always show emotional control,work is first,pursue status and violence.
I listened to an interview with Debbie Reynolds brother. The reporter was trying to elicit drama surrounding Debbie’s death but her brother was having none of it. He said, she willed herself into the transition we call death. Long ago I read Viktor Frankl telling of his experiences in the concentration camp in Germany during WWII. He said he witnessed people who had had enough of imprisonment. He said they indicated they had enough and they would go to sleep and die. They weren’t ill when they did this.The mind has an amazing ability to create reality or leave the body.
When watching TV, I mute commercials and avert my eyes as much as possible from them. In the late fall and all through the winter they remind us it is cold and flu season. I suspect a great many people get a malady because their told its the season. This falls under the heading of placebo and nocebo. I have many articles on this powerful phenomena in my News and Studies section of my website.
Debbie Reynolds story of her death is a testament to the ultimate power of our mind. The power to stay or leave this life. What a gift she left us to contemplate.
The mystics, the enlightened ones all say we are one. Quantum physics says everything exists in a sea of energy modulated into near infinite dimensions. The forms within those dimensions are created by consciousness. Now I am going to make a leap and say that the more connected we are to other consciousness resonating with high ideals and values the happier and calmer we become. When Jesus said I bring you a new commandment, love one another, this ideal was meant to supplant the effects of living according to laws of what not to do. And, we know whatever we are thinking about preceded with a not or don’t (e.g., don’t think about green elephants with pink monkeys dancing on them) will be seen in the mind symbolically, as thoughts and words exist symbolically.
Robert Waldinger is reporting on a study run for decades and the results say that good connections with others is the primary indicator for health and happiness. Reviewing this study has made me even more grateful for the people in my life that share the love I have to offer and reflect that back to me. I know you will like this video. It may change your life significantly for the better as you apply this knowledge.
Of course, I am someone who works with the mind and knows the mind can do miraculous things. Sometimes I can forget that it is important to question assumptions underlying our belief systems. For example, I have not questioned the theories on stress. I have read and believed that stress is bad for us all. And of course, if we believe stress is bad for us could stress be otherwise? I say not because our beliefs totally influence our reality.
So, I have not questioned the assumption that stress is bad for us until today when I watched this video. What if the effects of stress fall within the area of mind where placebos also reside. Could stress not be all that stressful if we believe it isn’t? The video below is interesting because it seems that if you don’t believe stress affects you negatively it won’t. Ah, the power of belief.
I would title this video “The Implications of Remote Viewing”.
His proof is quite compelling. The whole story is fascinating.
Four stars if your cup of tea is the mind.
Presenting is Russell Targ, a physicist and author who was a pioneer in the development of the laser and laser applications, and was co-founder of the Stanford Research Institute’s (SRI) investigation into psychic abilities in the 1970s and 1980s. His work with SRI in what was a new area, called remote viewing, has been widely published. His most recent book is “The Reality of ESP: A Physicist’s Proof of Psychic Abilities.” In 1976, Targ retired from Lockheed Martin Missiles & Space Co. as a senior staff scientist.
It seems noteworthy to say that I found his explanation of these abilities quite detailed. One such detail is the neutrality of the abilities. How these abilities are used is relative to the consciousness of each individual.
Synchronicity is a concept, first explained by psychoanalyst Carl Jung, which holds that events are “meaningful coincidences” if they occur with no causal relationship yet seem to be meaningfully related.
So, I’m catching the train in Seattle Wednesday night, its cold and dark, its the shortest day of the year. I am walking down the concrete walkway next to the train looking for my car and then finding my seat. I am ready to put my nose into a favorite old book and a woman sits down next to me. Her name is Regina. We exchange pleasantries and get into a wonderful conversation. The next thing you know I’m wishing her well at my stop in Olympia.
She was carrying a Steinbeck novel but had forgotten her glasses. I had forgotten my headphones and so we talked. She was much younger and a College level English teacher about to move to Portland and begin a teaching position. We have a delightful conversation. We have many shared perspectives and interests. She feels like someone I’ve always known, a connection.
The truth is, everything in our life is connected. From the past, to the present and future — every single coincidence or accident we stumble upon is connected, linked. No matter how small or big, it is all about synchronicity.
Every action you make creates an effect in the universe. You unconsciously connect your thoughts to others. Synchronicity is the law of oneness. We are all connected. There is no separation between you and anyone or anything. We are all connected.
There are no coincidences, no accidents. Every coincidence has meaning for us.
Whether you feel like you are having a perfect day, or a bad day, the universe is sending you a message. People and things happening in an exact moment is nothing but synchronicity and, fortunately, there is a way to accept it.
Do you know the saying “When the student is ready, the master appears”?
That is exactly how synchronicity is explained. Whenever you are synchronized with something you truly want, you are more likely to meet that thing, which is why similar people meet ‘accidentally’. The thing is, they are tuned in to the exact same frequency, and synchronicity does its best to match them. My life these days is moving in that direction and I couldn’t be more pleased.
We connected on so many levels and we reflected back to each other many wonderful things. I know so because it felt so good. And though I do not expect we will ever meet again, I am so grateful for such a deep conversation. The seats on Amtrak were assigned, and the universe placed us together for a trip down the tracks to Olympia. And I am grateful.
I saw this on Facebook and just had to put it here on my blog.
It is so true, that nothing but finding the center of who we are, will ever bring peace in this world of polarity. In the center lie the answers.
As Lao Tzu says: “Love is a decision. Not an emotion.” “At the center of your being you have the answer; you know who you are and you know what you want.”
It will take you one hundred and five days to do the following five things. Now you don’t know how you will change doing these things, one at a time, for 21 days at a time, but something will change. You don’t know what you will discover, but you will discover things.
Here are the five techniques:
Do one at a time. Do it for 21 days.
Then let me know what you discover, I’d love to know.
1) Sometime during your day, perhaps best at bedtime, write down three things you are grateful for that have occurred in the past 24 hours. Also, write down why you are grateful. Each day find 3 new ones.
2) Think of a meaningful experience from you life for two minutes each day. Write down every detail you can remember. As you do this look at the words you used to describe your experience.
3) Add fifteen minutes of a fun activity each day with energy. This creates a cascading effect over the days. This is to be an active event.
4) Consciously add three smiles to your day. As you go through your day smile at people until three of them have replied spontaneously with a return smile.
For a long time I’ve been wanting to do “energy healing”. I have discovered recently that I can have that integration. I first began energy healing in my late twenties. On and off since then I have been willing to do so while being shy about it. Shy because most people do not grant the existence of energy healing.
Recently I have combined the hypnotherapy (conscious) with the energy with two clients open to the experience. I am writing this because I am now publicly announcing that this integration is available. Both clients reported very positive experiences and I feel this is the future of my service.
I am writing this tonight because one client wrote: “I’m feeling so much better since our appointment. I have energy! Been cleaning and
“Tying up loose ends”. Checking off my list! Of course I keep making new lists!!!”
I am a certified Reiki healer and I have adapted aspects of that modality to blend with my Hypnotherapy and my decades of “Ricki” healing. I am using the cranial sacral method of making contact via gently holding the feet. I have noticed deeper trance states as a result. I’ve also noticed strong lasting post trance benefits.
I am thrilled to merge consciousness and energy into a synergistic powerful healing tool. In my past consciousness and energy was just a concept having to do with manifesting in three dimensional space. Now it is an action. 💜
